Kalisah had a good post the other day about the year in review, so I decided I’d steal it from her and use it here. Without further ado, here is my take on it:
1. What did you do in 2012 that you’d never done before?
Shit my pants in an airport terminal. (Sorry, but that’s the obvious one. Although, it is entirely possible I did it as an infant and just can’t remember.)
2. Did you keep your New Year’s Resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
I haven’t made New Year’s resolutions since I was about 12, and I don’t see a good reason to start now.
3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
No, actually. I had several friends who did, but they’re all far away and we’re not close-close.
4. Did anyone close to you die?
Yes, my brother-in-law, David. He had cancer and passed away in August. We’re still reeling, a little bit, especially with Christmas right around the corner.
5. What countries did you visit?
I am not sure who wrote these questions, but they are a lot more cosmopolitan than me. The last time I visited a foreign country was in 2004, and that was Canada.
6. What would you like to have in 2013 that you lacked in 2012?
A fake Christmas tree. I am sick to death of these needles, and I swear the stupid thing is coming down on the 26th. I would also like a trip back to Hawaii, which we are planning in June, hopefully.
7. What dates from 2012 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
I think for most of us, December 14 will be a day we don’t forget, because of the children murdered in Newtown, CT.
8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
It was a relatively tame year for me, but I completed a walking challenge where I walked the equivalent miles between Boise and Yellowstone National Park, so that was good. That seems a little silly though, so I’m going to take “being a good wife and great mom” as my biggest achievement.
9. What was your biggest failure?
Fortunately, that tame year for success also meant a tame year for failure. Honestly, the thing that comes to mind is having put a dent in the new truck 5 months after buying it. I was backing it out of the garage, and we have big, metal storage shelves along one side. My radio antenna caught on a clip hanging down from the top of one shelf, and it ended up dragging down the shop-vac and Mr. Vox’s metal cot, which both landed on the hood of the truck. The shop-vac bounced off, but the feet of the cot put a couple of pretty good-sized dings in it. I’m not great with keeping vehicles pristine.
10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
Illness, yes. Injury, not really.
11. What was the best thing you bought?
A truck with seat-warmers. Mama loves a warm butt.
12. Whose behavior merited celebration?
I’m awfully proud of President Obama. I think he has consistently proved that he is a good man, and in the times I don’t agree with what he’s done or hasn’t done, I’ve still understood why he did them. Afghanistan and Iraq are good examples of that: I want all of our troops out of there for real, but I know we can’t just walk away. Not realistically. In the meantime, he’s shown tremendous compassion in the wake of major incidents, including at Newtown, and during Hurricane Sandy, and any fool can see he loves his family like crazy.
13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?
I have found my mother-in-law’s slide into the depths of Alzheimer’s to be very depressing. I can’t say appalled, because that implies judgement that she entirely doesn’t deserve for falling victim to a disease. But having her and my father-in-law here in August was almost ridiculously depressing. Watching my FIL struggle, at age 87, with probably one of the most difficult tasks of his whole life, is just dreadful. Watching Junior Vox and Mr. Vox also trying to come to terms or even the vaguest understanding of why Grandma is the way she is was also really hard. I’ve had experience with Alzheimer’s in my younger years with my beloved Nana and her sister both suffering from it, and I know the course it takes, but my husband hasn’t had to deal with it in anyone he is close to.
14. Where did most of your money go?
Oh god, I pissed it away, as always. Starbucks here, a new top there, lots of stuff on my Kindle, stocking up on clothes for Junior Vox and taking her out to the movies and stuff. Most of my money gets spent on intangibles.
15. What did you get really, really excited about?
Going to Disneyland in February with Junior and Mr. Vox. It was her first trip, and it was so damned special to her. She’s a wise little soul that is generally pretty skeptical of people in costume and realizes they are not real, but I think she really believed that she was meeting the princesses. It was just a magical time for her, and some of that magic rubbed off on me.
16. What song will always remind you of 2012?
Oh, gotta be “Somebody That I Used to Know,” by Gotye. It was the biggest song of the year, and it really is a good one, for all that it was ridonkulously overplayed.
17. Compared to this time last year, are you (a) happier or sadder? (b) thinner or fatter, and (c) richer or poorer?
(a) Probably a little of both, actually. I think that means that rather than being happier or sadder, I am wiser.
(b) Oh, fatter, but who cares? It’s not my job to look a particular way, and I’m perfectly healthy. I am glad to be able to say that my value as a human is in no way tied to how I look or what size I am.
(c) A little bit richer, in that I got a raise this year, and Mr. Vox also got a good raise. And we’re definitely richer in experience.
18. What do you wish you’d done more of?
I wish I’d done more hot yoga. I fell off the wagon for most of the first part of the year, and now that I’m getting back into it, I realize it would have been good for me, both physically and spiritually. I wish I’d been able to work a little more overtime, to tell you the truth. I wish I’d taken JV to the local water-park this summer, and I wish we’d floated the Boise River.
19. What do you wish you’d done less of?
I wish I’d traveled a little bit less for work. I really didn’t need to see that much of Wyoming.
20. How will you be spending Christmas?
Again, this is a weird year because Mr. Vox will be in Wisconsin. Junior and I will be at a friend’s house on Christmas Eve, then will come home to sleep and do presents in the morning. I think that afternoon or night, we may go over to my friend Jane’s house to hang out for a bit. My dad will stop by at some point during the day. There is no major festivity planned, and that’s okay.
21. What was your favorite TV program?
I watch almost all of my non-kid TV on either DVD or via Amazon Prime. So my favorite TV program were the David Tennant seasons of Doctor Who, which we watched for the first time and I fell in love with.
22. What was the best book you read?
Ooh, I’m glad you asked! It was The Dog Stars, by Peter Heller. It’s a post-apocalyptic story, but very…literary, in spite of the relative fluffiness of the theme. (Not that the apocalypse is fluffy, but the genre usually is.) The protagonist, Hig, is a pilot who lives at a small airstrip north of Denver with his dog, Jasper. His wife died in the flu that wiped out most of the world’s population. He and a sort-of friend (who is a survivalist wacko, but exactly the kind of wacko you want around in that situation) live at a small airstrip, and Hig still takes his little plane out on flights to scout the land, look for supplies, and pay visits to a nearby religious enclave that needs his help. He gets a radio transmission from Grand Junction, CO one day, and finally decides to go see who sent it. Oh, it’s a great book and I loved it so much.
23. What was your favorite music from this year?
“Hold On,” by Alabama Shakes; “Pallet on Your Floor,” by Josh Ritter; “Take a Walk,” by Passion Pit; and “Kill Your Heroes” by AWOLNation.
24. What did you want and get?
The new truck (did I mention the seat-warmers? I did?). A purple glass insulator for my collection.
25. What did you want and not get?
Only metaphysical things really come to mind, and I don’t think that’s even the right word. I wanted my brother’s marriage to last. I wanted my other two brothers to pull their heads out of their asses and become family again. I wanted my niece not to get married at age 19, and I wanted she and her brother to walk away from the Jehovah’s Witness religion.
26. What was your favorite film this year?
I’m not sure I watched anything that wasn’t kid-friendly, so nothing stands out. I liked “Brave,” but I wish I could give a more mature answer than that.
27. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
I took the day off of work, which was great, and hung out with Junior Vox. She had the day off of school for parent/teacher conferences, so we spent time together. We went out to dinner that night with Mr. Vox, who took us to The Melting Pot for dinner. My “big present” was going to see Jimmy Buffett in concert. I turned 38 this year.
28. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
If, instead of just not being engaged or living together anymore, my dad and his former fiancee’ had decided to never see each other again. He still hangs around her place, randomly falling into garbage cans and whatnot, and he will just never see that the reason she keeps him around is because it helps her feel like she’s just such a good person for taking care of him the way she does. And the fact is that she loves feeling like a martyr way too much to ever get rid of her whipping boy.
29. How would you describe your personal style concept in 2012?
*chortle* My “personal style concept.” Ha, that’s funny. In short, I don’t want my pants to squeeze my waist uncomfortably. That sums it up. If I were to compare my work-style to a catalog, I’d say it’s pretty Eileen Fisher looking, though you won’t ever catch me paying the price for that label of clothes. There are plenty of drapey, soft-fabric knock-offs that cost a lot less.
30. What kept you sane?
Alcohol, medication, a strong sense of self, absolutely magnificent friends and the love I have for my family. Not necessarily in that order.
31. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
Chris Hemsworth, aka, “Thor”.
32. Which political issue stirred you the most?
The War on Women, which manifested itself in Idaho with a proposal to require mandatory vaginal ultrasounds before abortion. In Idaho, state law defines rape as undesired penetration, so it would have been state-sponsored rape for most women. It did not pass, thankfully. And I think that there were some huge successes in the war on women, so we gained momentum and won some key battles.
33. Who did you miss?
I miss my aunt, who lives in California and can’t afford to travel up here. It’s expensive for me to get to her part of the state, and I love her so much and miss/worry about her. She’s a wonderful person and I don’t get to see her nearly often enough.
34. Who was the best new person you met?
When we were at Disneyland, I got to meet in person a woman named Wendy, who I have been internet friends with for many years but had never met in person. I told Mr. Vox at the end of the trip that I am sure she and I would be total BFFs if we lived closer to each other. We just clicked.
35. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2012.
The one that is swirling around in my head right now but doesn’t have a very cogent moral at this point is how I had a really nice Thanksgiving without my two stupid brothers being there. It was nicer without them, and I’m looking forward to Christmas being the same, hopefully. I think the lesson is that I need to let go of feeling like I am responsible for ensuring we have a “family experience” at the holidays.
36. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.
“I closed my eyes and kept on swimming.” Change of Time, Josh Ritter.